Secondhand Wisdom Podcast – Episode #1 – The Art of “Figuring It Out”

When I was 10 yrs old. My dad took me outside to the front yard where our family van ( an old blue Astro van) was parked and had a flat tire. He turns to me and hands me a giant, dirty, smelly wrench and says change the tire, then leaves. Yup, HE LEAVES! The wrench was bigger than I was. It felt like I stood there for days. Time seemed to just move in fast fwd motion like everything was passing me by. The kids were playing soccer in the neighborhood, the drug dealers were dealing, the ice cream man was selling ice cream and I was just standing there, alone.

Then he said the words that would carry me through so many situations in my life, he said “Figure it out” and he left

He came back after about 10 mins and asked: “What are you doing?” I said, trying to change this dumb tire but I don’t know how cuz I’m a kid. He said very calmly, I human being with a brain put that tire there, so a human being with a brain can take it off. Then he said the words that would carry me through so many situations in my life, he said “Figure it out” and then he left again. At the time I felt like he was just so freakin mean. I thought to myself, what did I ever do to deserve such cruel punishment. It wasn’t until I was older that I realized that it wasn’t about changing the tire. It was about shifting my mindset away from only doing the things I think I’m capable of. 

You see if we only ever do the things we know, we’ll never go beyond our own limitations. We’ll never know what we’re truly capable of. But once we can move past our own self inflicted limitations, we can truly reach for the stars. We are capable of so much more than we think. Life has such huge, epic adventures for us. You re capable of so much more. Dream big dreams, dreams worth the all of the bad and all of the doubt. Life is too short to waste it on small dreams.

Dream big, then go figure it out.